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Explorer les causes et les effets de la dépendance à la masturbation

Dresser un portrait des pratiques associées à la masturbation

Pratique sexuelle courante, la masturbation est connue pour réduire le stress et améliorer la connaissance de soi. Toutefois, une utilisation instinctive de cette activité peut avoir des conséquences négatives.

Observer les signes d’un comportement addictif

Une personne dépendante à la masturbation peut se retrouver à la pratiquer de façon de plus en plus fréquente, perdant ainsi le contrôle, ce qui peut affecter négativement ses relations intimes.

Scruter les conséquences sur le plan psychologique et physique

L’abus de masturbation et la consommation fréquente de pornographie stimulent de manière constante le système dopaminergique, ce qui peut causer des troubles comme une éjaculation précoce, une baisse d’énergie et une insatisfaction sexuelle.

Explorer les raisons de l’extension de cette pratique

Explorer la place de la solitude et des désirs

Le désir insatisfait et la solitude, qu’elles soient relationnelles ou personnelles, peuvent pousser à une pratique habituelle.

Explorer les influences psychologiques et émotionnelles

L’angoisse, le stress ou un manque de contentement dans d’autres domaines peuvent inciter à cette pratique compulsive.

Analyser l’effet de la pornographie sur les attitudes et comportements

La pornographie est un facteur influent. Elle accentue souvent l’envie de se masturber et peut brouiller la perception de la sexualité.

Formuler une stratégie pour arrêter

Présenter des stratégies efficaces pour limiter cette pratique

• Identifier les facteurs déclencheurs : Prenez note de ce qui provoque l’envie de céder.
• Établir des objectifs de manière claire : Adoptez une approche progressive ou intégrez le « nofap » pour une abstinence complète.
• Se donner des objectifs précis : Mettez en œuvre des stratégies progressives ou intégrez le mouvement « nofap » pour rester abstinent.

Établir des mesures pour éviter les rechutes

• Se déconnecter de la pornographie : Bloquez les accès aux contenus explicites.
• Mettre en place un emploi du temps clair : Remplissez chaque moment de votre journée avec des activités productives.

Relever le rôle crucial des relations sociales dans ce parcours

• Consulter un sexologue : Un spécialiste pourra proposer des stratégies adaptées. (par exemplece lien)
• S’impliquer dans des groupes de soutien : Échanger ses expériences renforce l’engagement.

Évaluer les résultats d’un arrêt réussi

Illustrer l’évolution vers une meilleure gestion de la santé mentale

L’abstinence entraîne souvent un regain d’énergie, une humeur plus stable et une concentration accrue.

Présenter les changements positifs dans les relations humaines

Les échanges avec un partenaire deviennent plus riches, avec une relation émotionnelle et physique solidifiée.

Rappeler l’importance de suivre un chemin pour un bonheur stable

Diminuer la dépendance permet de vivre des bénéfices durables dans la vie privée, professionnelle et sociale.

Sexualité et addiction à la masturbation : trouver des solutions

Nombreux sont ceux qui trouvent difficile d’arrêter la masturbation, une pratique habituellement perçue comme normale et bénéfique pour la sexualité. Pourtant, quand elle devient excessive ou addictive, elle peut perturber des aspects importants de la vie, comme le travail, la stabilité émotionnelle ou les interactions sociales.

Pour conclure

Cesser la masturbation habituelle nécessite du temps et de la détermination. En adoptant un plan bien conçu et avec un soutien approprié, ce défi peut être relevé, ouvrant la voie à une vie plus équilibrée et centrée sur des objectifs significatifs.

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Retranscription des paroles de la vidéo: you don’t masturbate before ah which kind of question this one again you don’t masturbate before this supposed to ask a question on a broadcast yeah have you struggled with masturbation you struggled with guy you don’t masturbate before now the question why they ask you be that is it a yes or a no a [Music] welcome back to V podcast it is your guy Bama Joseph AKA B and with me is Ram rampy yeah welcome to be Conner podcast thank you thank you yeah the conversation on the table is the struggles of a Christian guy personal struggles edition of course that one way they bite way you they struggle with ramp hi guy you don’t masturbate before how it happened I want tell you how it you tell me how it happened now we’re talking about the struggles of a Christian guy and you know Saba let me tell you something many of us Church boys yeah we look the past in church you know we dress well we pray loud you know we always look like we’re carrying the Holy Ghost in our pocket but deep down inside of us we’re dying there certain struggles that we face when we go back to our houses it’s like it’s like it’s like a den that we enter into because we know all of our demons are waiting for us in our rooms how did your own personal struggles happen bro your question came to me like a shortgun you know to my head honestly right yeah but you see the thing about masturbation is the door of masturbation doesn’t just open something most likely yes I mean something else must have opened the door well that’s what was your personal experience see the problem I had was when I was probably 9 years old remember yeah that time when we used to have VHS VHS video and um black and white television I remember that one time walking into a room where you know adults were watching a movie yeah now unfortunately is now that I okay it was eventually I knew that it was pornography they were watching I noticed everybody was quiet then I sat down I was just there to watch and you didn’t know what what you I didn’t really know what was going on by the time I I grew I started having um you know these um what do you call these dreams no not we dreams when teenagers don’t they grow now they start experiencing puberty puberty okay yeah all right so you started experiencing puberty so the moment I began to experience puberty so what happened was I that was when the images that I had seen when I was 9 years old began to replay my mind but now it was replay with a meaning yeah right yes so before you know what happened it opened the door to pornographic the mind is mind is that means you can actually trap an image and it will be saved yes you may not even know what it is but when you grow up and then yeah maybe life experiences or something begins to interpret those same those same images to you so anyways that’s how I began to get addicted now to pornography wow and then pornography that opened the door to masturbation so it’s usually course it’s always like that always like that you know what’s interesting is that you and I seem to have very similar stories how how pornography started for me was that was walking into a room also now you know then uh not every household had a TV set or a VHS set or something like that so many times we would have to sneak into our neighbor houses to watch TV with them then in Nigeria it was Indian movies we were very crazy about Indian mov Sunday so we would you know sneak into our neighbors rooms sometimes they would chase us away and sometimes they would let us now this day I was I think at I was back from school I was in secondary school then I came back from school my dad of course was a banker had been a banker all his life you know my mom I think went to church women fellowship or something but I knew that I and my siblings were the only ones at home you know and so I heard the sound of the uh TV you know TV in my neighbor’s uh room so I tried to get in someone there was someone at the door who tried to resist me you know to hinder me from entering I kept insisting I kept insisting now because they didn’t want me to create a scene of course they allowed me in so the guy said when you come in you’re going to be quiet and I said yes so I crept into the room and sat down like you they were watching something now I knew because I was in secondary school I was already a teenager I I could identify that a woman was naked and a man was naked and some activities going on now these images began to playb back I think it say a year or two years later right and how did that begin in secondary school some of my friends who whose parents were you know wealthy enough to buy them phones began to come with what we called simbian phones that had the ability to browse so I would see a group of guys you knowed together cluster together looking at something some of them will be giggling and all of that and my curiosity so somehow I was able to find my way into you know that cluster and lo and behold these guys were watching pornography now that was the journey for me because like you said images were registered I was a teenager my body had began to respond to sexual desires I began to look for means to satisfy because you know I I can’t go to a I can’t find a girl I can’t go to a woman or you couldn’t of course I couldn’t teen how would I go to a girl and say I to sleep with you so I had to find a way to satisfy now but this is it I said something about we Christian guys and mind you even for me that that that thing traveled with me to my adult you know years of right I became an adult but still struggling with pornography and masturbation now we have young guys in church who are you know going through this called This is struggles right and many of them would never dare to speak because like I said we know to look the part where those guys that are considered oh men of God guys who are on fire for God look sharp in all of that but we’re struggling with masturbation now talk to me about how long your experience lingered and perhaps how you even how you even began to you know find the way around it okay you see I may not be able to say particularly you know when how long it linger where but even as at the time that I started having pornographic addiction I didn’t even think it was much of a problem I thought it was he still part of life and exploration of my youth and all of that and then many of my friends around then particularly in secondary school like you’re talking about were doing it so I think my moral compass then was not um judging me or anything I didn’t feel like but I just knew that um is not something I could do in the presence of my father or elderly people that’s right yeah it could be done in hidden but not necessarily that I felt it was wrong as it were mhm where the real struggle began was when I got born again when I got born again I got born again I was in SS2 okay when I got born again you know there was this joy in my heart that was was just it was amazing and it was spontaneous for no reason I was just joyful and I realized that what came with the joy is the deadness of the desire for certain things that were filthy that was one of the mistakes I made was I thought that that thing was to be per going to be there forever oh my God so it was when I found out that the desires were actually there that was when it became a struggle wow exactly so yeah then it was not a struggle because there was nothing within you there was nothing within you saying I was trying to counter the experience of watching yes the pornography and all that so but when he became a struggle that was when it was very difficult for me now there was something I did in my 200 level today I don’t know if it was the right thing to do but he helped me MH do you know one day I stood up during Fellowship now I was already recognized brother then people knew me to be Pastor R and all that exactly do you know I stood in front of the fellowship and I confessed and told them that I’ve been struggling with the scene of pornography how did you even do that bro I just had to I was desperate dying D I really needed to so to me it was in my head then I felt this was one of the things I needed to do because I realized that this the the power of sin is secrecy so if I’m able to break this thing I’m able to come out and actually say it but guess what even while I was saying it I was still struggling with it but the Liberty that came with that expression was amazing that was when other people now started having courage in fact that time it was pornography it was not even masturbation then a friend of mine who was equally as fiery as anything came out and started talking about struggle with masturbation and then I realized oh my God so you made that I respect so much too that are going through all this struggle so now if you think about it how did I still move from only struggling with pornography and then moving into masturbation bro the struggle did not end it didn’t end it was not it was not exactly easy I’m telling you listen you see this thing with pornography and masturbation and I’m we’re emphasizing this because I believe strongly that there are so many people struggling with this watching us when you said the struggle almost never ends look I was there many times I will wake up hating myself hating myself and hating everything about I mean look basically hating myself because now in my understanding I have done everything I needed to do in fact there were times when I assumed the position of a counselor when people would come to me and say bro I’m struggling with this and I’ll begin to reel out to them the things that they needed to do that I was doing that were not working well you have to say something I mean but I had to say something you know something like when you in the room and the desire comes get up and begin to walk I tried those things except that I wouldn’t I I keep walking I would need to sleep and then sometime in the middle of the night the arge comes back again and sometimes you could I couldn’t do anything but just G you know giving yeah I I’m really really emphasizing the point where you said this struggle almost never goes away because someone out there is saying look I’ve done everything I need I need to do I read the books I’ve watched the clips I prayed guy I prayed I prayed I’m telling you the truth I prayed many times with tears begging God and saying take this thing away from me right before we got to how God helped me right I want to hear your story now that thing you did was very courageous standing in the presence of people and speaking about it I couldn’t dare do it but I did at some point when I realized look you will die if you don’t do it this thing will literally kill you right so I had to speak up to someone now um God has helped us God has helped me I can say that for sure someone is saying I need God to help me what would you counsel yeah that’s the beginning of the journey the recognition that you actually need that you actually need help and another thing is that as much as it is good for us to have people that we should talk to and open up on what our struggles are we still need to be careful who we share some of these things with I’m sorry to just dive in a little bit because there was a particular time where I had an ugly experience that I didn’t have the courage to share with everybody and I shared it with a friend mhm and this guy went to the church where I was standing in the congregation and recounted the same experience and said it was prophecy now that BR my heart I don’t think till today I can ever look at that guy the same right yeah but I forgien and all of that but it just tells you how far some people can actually go whether to bring you down to prove something I don’t really I don’t really understand but the first thing is the recognition of the help the second thing is you have to realize that it’s not like these are cannot be broken don’t if you already if you have it in your head that you you can never it will it will never it will never end it will never end the third thing is anything that causes that trigger you have to try as much as possible to just stay away from it completely otherwise you will find yourself falling back again number three is if you find yourself or I don’t know if it’s number four but if you ever find yourself relapsing again never think in any way that the the what do I call it now the feeling of guilt and condemnation is going to help you H yeah guilt and condemnation don’t help as a matter of fact they will push you back into that but remember that no matter how much you have relapsed the The God Who has helped you before who loves you has not stopped loving you see but let tell one of the places where I actually saw the light was when I realized that my struggles don’t change God’s perception of me actually no they don’t they don’t in fact they they de my own perception of God but not God’s God doesn’t change see when when was talking about how that our sin have separated us from God didn’t separate God from from us we are the ones that are separated our inability to now reconnect the divine power and all of that so yeah and then again sometimes if you are see the thing about these feelings uh ask yourself a very simple question if you have a pornographic desire or a desire to watch a pornographic movie and then a th breaks out breaks into your house would you sit there and would you sit there and say see that no to tell you how how the mind to just tell you how the mind really works you don’t seem to see the stake yes you don’t see what’s at stake you cannot even sometimes we can’t even simulate the fact that it’s not like I cannot you can you can you be saying that you know the came so strong it’s not stronger even at the point of wanting to click that that site if something happens you get up you will get up from that place so yeah so it’s not as if if you if you don’t give into it you will you will not die my brother W so if you see how important it is like look the the the reality of my God help me I’m looking for the words if it becomes very important for you to leave it you will leave you will leave it sir I’m telling you you are going to leave it TR I like something you said and truly this is not this is not a license to continue in our ways or in our sinful ways like Paul would say shall we continue in sin then that Grace May abound God forbid like when you said God’s perspective about us never changes that was that’s so powerful because I had that problem every time I arrived at the point where I masturbated or watched a pornographic clip you feel filty I just yeah I felt very filthy I felt like God is in heaven now saying look at this one look at this one these are the people I’m going to burn in hell I felt I felt unworthy look it it it was a struggle to pray it was a struggle to pray I couldn’t come to God because in my head God God God doesn’t want to hear the prayers of people like me now one of the things that helped me was like I said I was going to say God helped me and I summoned the courage to speak to a brother and that would have been the only time ever but God brought the help in that conversation now the guy had to he had to he had to comfort me in the fact that look God’s perspective about you never changes he still loves you he still wants you he he still wants to walk by with you like imagine the contradiction you are in church and you know that the hand of God is upon you you’re already doing very Mighty things right you’re already encouraging people people have become better by the words you’ve spoken to them you understand but you go back to your to your saying something very powerful but tell you that you see our meddling with sin is not what removes the endorsement of God’s grace and anointing Upon Us certainly because ofs are without repentance I’m not trying to legitimize sin yes yes go ahead go ahead do you know that there are oh god there are times that I’ve I’ve either masturbated or watch pornography and I still had the opportunity to minister the power of the Lord came down I can is scary that’s why this is why that thing that’s why the Bible say the goodness of God is supposed to bring us to his Mercy it is the goodness of God that should bring us to repentance if this God will not withdraw his his grace that what he’s tell God is telling you look young man you are bigger than this nonsense my God that’s what the truth this is good you it is your insecurity or fear or lack of the comprehension of his grace that is making you continue there’s a level of understanding that you have understanding that’s the word about knowing not I think I have to arrive at the point where I asked myself look B if God is still is still good and merciful like this like I said you open your mouth and you speak to people and you can literally watch their lives transform from the things you said to them I had to say to myself if God is backing you like this every time you go to speak or do something he’s behind you he’s not endorsing the he’s not endorsing you should know ayond and I had to tell one dayy like you said I’m bigger than this thing the God in Me Is Bigger Than This thing and I know that it is easier it sounds easier said than done but the truth is the moment you come to the understanding like you said the knowledge start by start by acknowledging that God and his plans for you are bigger than these things it becomes the first step for you they they are way bigger you know even um but sometimes again you know I don’t know if I’m jumping but I had an I had an experience where my father the way I grew up with my father in such a way that I feared the man I I not only respected him I feared that man do you know one day you know he was just coming out he was coming into the house through the backyard and I was at the kitchen the man just looked at me I said R if you ever get any lady pregnant out of M he just said I will give you a hole and I will build a house for my Village and then you will raise your child with your wife in that Village that picture was so horrendous that that was the thing that put me I’m telling you I never slept with a W not the thought of going to the Village I not think about it that do you know that the only time I ever fell into any kind of sexual immorality I mean fornication was after the man died that mean if my father was still alive imag no but also that’s my that’s if you have that fear of God if you have that reverence there are things you will not even try there are things you will not even you will not even conour or even see you you think that when he was alive I didn’t have the Temptations they were of course you did but the presence of my father the thought of disappointing this maning yes it’s you you I I could not do it now the problem is we don’t think that God is that realistically us that’s the reason yeah with nonsense and all of those kind of things you understand you you think because of the way you feel it legitimizes your desire to satisfy something when your God is actually bigger Ander good point to bring this to a WRA look the way you feel does not does not legitimize what you are doing and listen it’s not over for you you may be there it’s not the end God loves you he wants you the plans and the purposes that he has for you are bigger than what you’re going through just dare to believe that there’s something bigger than the struggle and it has been the be Corner podcast talking about the struggles of the Christian guy I’m sure you had a good time we will see you in the next episode it has been B Joseph aka the be and ramp it’s really great to have you on this podcast see you soon .

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0.16 ah which kind of question this one again
0.16 you don&;t masturbate before this
0.16 supposed to ask a question on a
0.16 broadcast yeah have you struggled with
0.16 masturbation you struggled with guy you
0.16 don&;t masturbate before now the question
0.16 why they ask you be that is it a yes or
0.16 a no a
0.16 [Music]
0.16 welcome back to V podcast it is your guy
0.16 Bama Joseph AKA B and with me is
0.16 Ram rampy yeah welcome to be Conner
0.16 podcast thank you thank
0.16 you yeah the conversation on the table
0.16 is the struggles of a Christian guy
0.16 personal struggles edition of course
0.16 that one way they bite way you they
0.16 struggle with ramp hi guy you don&;t
0.16 masturbate before how it happened I want
0.16 tell you how it you tell me how it
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0.16 struggles of a Christian guy and you
0.16 know Saba let me tell you something many
0.16 of us Church boys yeah we look the past
0.16 in church you know we dress well we pray
0.16 loud you know we always look like we&;re
0.16 carrying the Holy Ghost in our pocket
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0.16 there certain struggles that we face
0.16 when we go back to our houses it&;s like
0.16 it&;s like it&;s like a den that we enter
0.16 into because we know all of our demons
0.16 are waiting for us in our
0.16 rooms how did your own personal
0.16 struggles happen bro your question came
0.16 to me like a shortgun you know to my
0.16 head honestly right yeah but you see the
0.16 thing about masturbation is the door of
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0.16 what was your personal experience see
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0.16 probably 9 years old remember yeah that
0.16 time when we used to have VHS VHS video
0.16 and um black and white
0.16 television I remember that one time
0.16 walking into a room where you know
0.16 adults were watching a movie yeah now
0.16 unfortunately is now that I okay
0.16 it was eventually I knew that it was
0.16 pornography they were watching I noticed
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0.16 what happened was I that was when the
0.16 images that I had seen when I was 9
0.16 years old began to replay my mind but
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0.16 it will be saved yes you may not even
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0.16 that&;s how I began to get addicted now
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0.16 interesting is that you and I seem to
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0.16 movies we were very crazy about Indian
0.16 mov Sunday so we would you know sneak
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0.16 you know my mom I think went to church
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0.16 secondary school I was already a
0.16 teenager I I could identify that a woman
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0.16 activities going on now these images
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0.16 year or two years later right and how
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0.16 of my friends who whose parents were you
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0.16 began to come with what we called
0.16 simbian phones that had the ability to
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0.16 you knowed together cluster together
0.16 looking at something some of them will
0.16 be giggling and all of that and my
0.16 curiosity so somehow I was able to find
0.16 my way into you know that cluster and lo
0.16 and behold these guys were watching
0.16 pornography now that was the journey for
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0.16 registered I was a teenager my body had
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0.16 began to look for means to satisfy
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0.16 something about we Christian guys and
0.16 mind you even for me that that that
0.16 thing traveled with me to my adult you
0.16 know years of right I became an adult
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0.16 and masturbation now we have young guys
0.16 in church who are you know going through
0.16 this called This is struggles right and
0.16 many of them would never dare to speak
0.16 because like I said we know to look the
0.16 part where those guys that are
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0.16 now talk to me about how long your
0.16 experience lingered and perhaps how you
0.16 even how you even began to you know find
0.16 the way around it okay you see I may not
0.16 be able to say particularly you know
0.16 when how long it linger where
0.16 but even as at the time that I started
0.16 having pornographic addiction I didn&;t
0.16 even think it was much of a
0.16 problem I thought it was he still part
0.16 of life and exploration of my youth and
0.16 all of that and then many of my friends
0.16 around then particularly in secondary
0.16 school like you&;re talking about were
0.16 doing it so I think my moral compass
0.16 then was not um judging me or anything I
0.16 didn&;t feel like but I just knew that um
0.16 is not something I could do in the
0.16 presence of my father or elderly people
0.16 that&;s right yeah it could be done in
0.16 hidden but not necessarily that I felt
0.16 it was wrong as it were mhm where the
0.16 real struggle began was when I got born
0.16 again when I got born again I got born
0.16 again I was in SS2 okay when I got born
0.16 again you know there was this joy in my
0.16 heart that was was just it was amazing
0.16 and it was spontaneous for no reason I
0.16 was just joyful and I realized that what
0.16 came with the joy is the deadness of the
0.16 desire for certain things that were
0.16 filthy that was one of the mistakes I
0.16 made was I thought that that thing was
0.16 to be per going to be there forever oh
0.16 my God so it was when I found out that
0.16 the desires were actually there that was
0.16 when it became a struggle wow exactly so
0.16 yeah then it was not a struggle because
0.16 there was nothing within you there was
0.16 nothing within you saying I was trying
0.16 to counter the experience of watching
0.16 yes the pornography and all that so but
0.16 when he became a struggle that was when
0.16 it was very difficult for me now there
0.16 was something I did in my 200 level
0.16 today I don&;t know if it was the right
0.16 thing to do but he helped me MH do you
0.16 know one day I stood up during
0.16 Fellowship now I was already recognized
0.16 brother then people knew me to be Pastor
0.16 R and all that exactly do you know I
0.16 stood in front of the fellowship and I
0.16 confessed and told them that I&;ve been
0.16 struggling with the scene of pornography
0.16 how did you even do that bro I just had
0.16 to I was desperate dying D I really
0.16 needed to so to me it was in my head
0.16 then I felt this was one of the things I
0.16 needed to do because I realized that
0.16 this the the power of sin is secrecy so
0.16 if I&;m able to break this thing I&;m able
0.16 to come out and actually say it but
0.16 guess what even while I was saying it I
0.16 was still struggling with it but the
0.16 Liberty that came with that expression
0.16 was amazing that was when other people
0.16 now started having courage in fact that
0.16 time it was pornography it was not even
0.16 masturbation then a friend of mine who
0.16 was equally as fiery as anything came
0.16 out and started talking about struggle
0.16 with masturbation and then I realized oh
0.16 my God so you made that I respect so
0.16 much too that are going through all this
0.16 struggle so now if you think about it
0.16 how did I still move from only
0.16 struggling with pornography and then
0.16 moving into masturbation bro the
0.16 struggle did not end it didn&;t end it
0.16 was not it was not exactly easy I&;m
0.16 telling you listen you see this thing
0.16 with pornography and masturbation and
0.16 I&;m we&;re emphasizing this because I
0.16 believe strongly that there are so many
0.16 people struggling with this watching us
0.16 when you said the struggle almost never
0.16 ends look I was there many times I will
0.16 wake up hating myself hating myself and
0.16 hating everything
0.16 about I mean look basically hating
0.16 myself because now in my understanding I
0.16 have done everything I needed to do in
0.16 fact there were times when I assumed the
0.16 position of a counselor when people
0.16 would come to me and say bro I&;m
0.16 struggling with this and I&;ll begin to
0.16 reel out to them the things that they
0.16 needed to do that I was doing that were
0.16 not working well you have to say
0.16 something I mean but I had to say
0.16 something you know something like when
0.16 you in the room and the desire comes get
0.16 up and begin to walk
0.16 I tried those things except that I
0.16 wouldn&;t I I keep
0.16 walking I would need to sleep and then
0.16 sometime in the middle of the night the
0.16 arge comes back again and sometimes you
0.16 could I couldn&;t do anything but just G
0.16 you know giving yeah I I&;m really really
0.16 emphasizing the point where you said
0.16 this struggle almost never goes away
0.16 because someone out there is saying look
0.16 I&;ve done everything I need I need to do
0.16 I read the books I&;ve watched the clips
0.16 I prayed guy I prayed I prayed I&;m
0.16 telling you the truth I prayed many
0.16 times with tears begging God and saying
0.16 take this thing away from me right
0.16 before we got to how God helped me right
0.16 I want to hear your story now that thing
0.16 you did was very courageous standing in
0.16 the presence of people and speaking
0.16 about it I couldn&;t dare do it but I did
0.16 at some point when I realized look you
0.16 will die if you don&;t do it this thing
0.16 will literally kill you right so I had
0.16 to speak up to someone now um God has
0.16 helped us God has helped me I can say
0.16 that for sure someone is saying I need
0.16 God to help me what would you counsel
0.16 yeah that&;s the beginning of the journey
0.16 the recognition that you actually need
0.16 that you actually need help and another
0.16 thing is that as much as it is good for
0.16 us to have people that we should talk to
0.16 and open up on what our struggles are we
0.16 still need to be careful who we share
0.16 some of these things with I&;m sorry to
0.16 just dive in a little bit because there
0.16 was a particular time where I had an
0.16 ugly experience that I didn&;t have the
0.16 courage to share with everybody and I
0.16 shared it with a friend mhm and this guy
0.16 went to the church where I was standing
0.16 in the congregation and recounted the
0.16 same experience and said it was prophecy
0.16 now that BR my heart I don&;t think till
0.16 today I can ever look at that guy the
0.16 same right yeah but I forgien and all of
0.16 that but it just tells you how far some
0.16 people can actually go whether to bring
0.16 you down to prove something I don&;t
0.16 really I don&;t really understand but the
0.16 first thing is the recognition of the
0.16 help the second thing is you have to
0.16 realize that it&;s not like these are
0.16 cannot be
0.16 broken don&;t if you already if you have
0.16 it in your head that you you can never
0.16 it will it will never it will never end
0.16 it will never end the third thing is
0.16 anything that causes that trigger you
0.16 have to try as much as possible to just
0.16 stay away from it completely otherwise
0.16 you will find yourself falling back
0.16 again number three is if you find
0.16 yourself or I don&;t know if it&;s number
0.16 four but if you ever find yourself
0.16 relapsing again
0.16 never think in any way that the the what
0.16 do I call it now the feeling of guilt
0.16 and condemnation is going to help you H
0.16 yeah guilt and condemnation don&;t help
0.16 as a matter of fact they will push you
0.16 back into that but remember that no
0.16 matter how much you have relapsed the
0.16 The God Who has helped you before who
0.16 loves you has not stopped loving you see
0.16 but let tell one of the places where I
0.16 actually saw the light was when I
0.16 realized that my struggles don&;t change
0.16 God&;s perception of me actually no they
0.16 don&;t they don&;t in fact they they de my
0.16 own perception of God but not God&;s God
0.16 doesn&;t change see when when was talking
0.16 about how that our sin have separated us
0.16 from God didn&;t separate God from from
0.16 us we are the ones that are separated
0.16 our inability to now reconnect the
0.16 divine power and all of that so yeah and
0.16 then again sometimes if you are see the
0.16 thing about these feelings uh ask
0.16 yourself a very simple question if you
0.16 have a pornographic desire or a desire
0.16 to watch a pornographic movie and then a
0.16 th breaks out breaks into your house
0.16 would you sit there and would you sit
0.16 there and
0.16 say see that no to tell you how how the
0.16 mind to just tell you how the mind
0.16 really works you don&;t seem to see the
0.16 stake yes you don&;t see what&;s at stake
0.16 you cannot even sometimes we can&;t even
0.16 simulate the fact that it&;s not like I
0.16 cannot you can you can you be saying
0.16 that you know the came so strong it&;s
0.16 not stronger even at the point of
0.16 wanting to click that that site if
0.16 something happens you get up you will
0.16 get up from that place so yeah so it&;s
0.16 not as if if you if you don&;t give into
0.16 it you will you will not die my brother
0.16 W so if you see how important it is like
0.16 look the the the reality of my God help
0.16 me I&;m looking for the words if it
0.16 becomes very important for you to leave
0.16 it you will leave you will leave it sir
0.16 I&;m telling you you are going to leave
0.16 it
0.16 TR I like something you said and truly
0.16 this is not this is not a license to
0.16 continue in our ways or in our sinful
0.16 ways like Paul would say shall we
0.16 continue in sin then that Grace May
0.16 abound God forbid like when you said
0.16 God&;s perspective about us never changes
0.16 that was that&;s so powerful because I
0.16 had that problem every time I arrived at
0.16 the point where I masturbated or watched
0.16 a pornographic clip you feel filty I
0.16 just yeah I felt very filthy I felt like
0.16 God is in heaven now saying look at this
0.16 one look at this one these are the
0.16 people I&;m going to burn in hell I felt
0.16 I felt unworthy look it it it was a
0.16 struggle to pray it was a struggle to
0.16 pray I couldn&;t come to God because in
0.16 my head God God God doesn&;t want to hear
0.16 the prayers of people like me now one of
0.16 the things that helped me was like I
0.16 said I was going to say God helped me
0.16 and I summoned the courage to speak to a
0.16 brother and that would have been the
0.16 only time ever but God brought the help
0.16 in that conversation now the guy had to
0.16 he had to he had to comfort me in the
0.16 fact that look God&;s perspective about
0.16 you never changes he still loves you he
0.16 still wants you he he still wants to
0.16 walk by with you like imagine the
0.16 contradiction you are in church and you
0.16 know that the hand of God is upon you
0.16 you&;re already doing very Mighty things
0.16 right you&;re already encouraging people
0.16 people have become better by the words
0.16 you&;ve spoken to them you understand but
0.16 you go back to your to your saying
0.16 something very powerful but tell you
0.16 that you see our meddling with sin is
0.16 not what removes the endorsement of
0.16 God&;s grace and anointing Upon Us
0.16 certainly because ofs are without
0.16 repentance I&;m not trying to legitimize
0.16 sin yes yes go ahead go ahead do you
0.16 know
0.16 that there are oh god there are times
0.16 that I&;ve I&;ve either masturbated or
0.16 watch pornography and I still had the
0.16 opportunity to minister the power of the
0.16 Lord came down I can is
0.16 scary that&;s why this is why that thing
0.16 that&;s why the Bible say the goodness of
0.16 God is supposed to bring us to his Mercy
0.16 it is the goodness of God that should
0.16 bring us to repentance if this God will
0.16 not withdraw his his grace that what
0.16 he&;s tell God is telling you look young
0.16 man you are bigger than this nonsense my
0.16 God that&;s what the truth this is good
0.16 you it is your insecurity or fear or
0.16 lack of the comprehension of his grace
0.16 that is making you continue
0.16 there&;s a level of understanding that
0.16 you have understanding that&;s the word
0.16 about knowing
0.16 not I think I have to arrive at the
0.16 point where I asked myself look B if God
0.16 is still is still good and merciful like
0.16 this like I said you open your mouth and
0.16 you speak to people and you can
0.16 literally watch their lives transform
0.16 from the things you said to them I had
0.16 to say to myself if God is backing you
0.16 like this every time you go to speak or
0.16 do something he&;s behind you he&;s not
0.16 endorsing the he&;s not endorsing you
0.16 should know
0.16 ayond and I had to tell one dayy like
0.16 you said I&;m bigger than this thing the
0.16 God in Me Is Bigger Than This thing and
0.16 I know that it is easier it sounds
0.16 easier said than done but the truth is
0.16 the moment you come to the understanding
0.16 like you said the knowledge start by
0.16 start by acknowledging that God and his
0.16 plans for you are bigger than these
0.16 things it becomes the first step for you
0.16 they they are way bigger you know even
0.16 um but sometimes again you know I don&;t
0.16 know if I&;m jumping but I had an I had
0.16 an experience where my father the way I
0.16 grew up with my father in such a way
0.16 that I feared the man I I not only
0.16 respected him I feared that man do you
0.16 know one day you know he was just coming
0.16 out he was coming into the house through
0.16 the backyard and I was at the kitchen
0.16 the man just looked at me I said R if
0.16 you ever get any lady pregnant out of M
0.16 he just said I will give you a hole and
0.16 I will build a house for
0.16 my Village and then you will raise your
0.16 child with your wife in that Village
0.16 that picture was so horrendous that that
0.16 was the thing that put me I&;m telling
0.16 you I never slept with a W not the
0.16 thought of going to the Village I not
0.16 think about it that do you know that the
0.16 only time I ever fell into any kind of
0.16 sexual immorality I mean fornication was
0.16 after the man died that mean if my
0.16 father was still alive
0.16 imag no but
0.16 also that&;s my that&;s if you have that
0.16 fear of God if you have that reverence
0.16 there are things you will not even try
0.16 there are things you will not even you
0.16 will not even conour or even see you you
0.16 think that when he was alive I didn&;t
0.16 have the Temptations they were of course
0.16 you did but the presence of my father
0.16 the thought of disappointing this
0.16 maning yes it&;s you you I I could not do
0.16 it now the problem is we don&;t think
0.16 that God is that realistically
0.16 us that&;s the reason
0.16 yeah with nonsense and all of those kind
0.16 of things you understand you you think
0.16 because of the way you feel it
0.16 legitimizes your desire to satisfy
0.16 something when your God is actually
0.16 bigger Ander good point to bring this to
0.16 a WRA look the way you feel does not
0.16 does not legitimize what you are doing
0.16 and listen it&;s not over for you you may
0.16 be there it&;s not the end God loves you
0.16 he wants you the plans and the purposes
0.16 that he has for you are bigger than what
0.16 you&;re going through just dare to
0.16 believe that there&;s something bigger
0.16 than the struggle and it has been the be
0.16 Corner podcast talking about the
0.16 struggles of the Christian guy I&;m sure
0.16 you had a good time we will see you in
0.16 the next episode it has been B Joseph
0.16 aka the be and ramp it&;s really great to
0.16 have you on this podcast see you soon
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